3 Ways to Support Your Loved Ones Who Are Struggling With Depression

[Dr. Vaibhav Dubey]

"I'm fine."

What do you think when someone says this to you?

Most likely, you feel like they are shutting down the conversation and changing the subject. Is there anything more frustrating than trying to support someone or offer your help, but they act as if everything is okay? It may be hard for them to admit they need help, which makes it difficult for them to ask for that help. If you find yourself in a situation where your loved one is not asking you for the support they need (which may be more than what you can give), here are 3 ways on how to offer it to them, suggested by the best psychiatrist in Bhopal.

If someone tells me their fine, I often think "are you sure?" or "you seem a little off."

When someone tells you they are fine, your first gut response for most is to ask again. Try not to push the issue too hard if they shut you down, but stay observant and look for signs that something might be up. It may also help to have a conversation with them before you expect them to tell you if something is wrong.

Once you've opened the conversation, here are 3 ways you can support your loved ones who might be struggling with depression:

1. Let Them Talk About It - And Keep Listening

When they do open up about their feelings, listen carefully and try to understand where they are coming from. Make sure they know you are listening and try to ask follow up questions so you can better understand what they are going through, but don't push them if they seem uncomfortable. If your loved one talks about suicide or has a plan, take it very seriously and call for help immediately.

2. Don't Try To Cheer Them Up

Trying to force your loved one to "snap out of it" or be more positive is only going to make them feel worse. If they are sad, let them be sad. Their sadness might come in waves and it doesn't mean that there is no light at the end of the tunnel; but you can't make it go away by telling them to just cheer up. One of the most detrimental things you can do is ignore or deny their feelings, so if you want to help, don't do this!

3. Take Them To See A Professional If Necessary

If your loved one won't go see a professional by themselves, consider taking them yourself, says a mental health counselor in Bhopal. It's hard to admit that there is a problem and you can't force them to get the help they need, but if you really care about this person, telling them it might be a good idea to talk to someone else. It may seem like it's not enough, but even getting your loved one into the building is a big deal. Your loved one might not be ready to talk yet, but at least they are taking the first step.