Does A Course in Miracles Teach That I Require a Holy Relationship in Order to Awaken

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I do want to ask you by what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In one single area of the book it talks about "entering the ark" together, and it almost sounds like you will need an added specific person in order to awaken. Therefore, I believe I approach each new person with the expectation that maybe THIS could possibly be the connection that reflects enlightenment in my experience, and I to them! Am I taking this too literally? Or do you really have to have another to assist you awaken?a course in miracles videos

 

I appreciate your own time so much and thank you for the help in my experience and others. I thank you and I thank God for you. Namaste.



David Hoffmeister: Thanks for the openness and your willingness to appear deeply at what's underneath these topics and issues. A Course in Miracles teaches that the split mind contains both the situation (the ego) and the Solution (the Holy Spirit). When they're brought together, only One remains.



The body and the world are always the focus of ego's perspective, for it seeks to create real problems and struggles on earth and to steer clear of the inner Healing Correction of the Holy Spirit. The ego's distorted world is the merchandise of identity confusion, an outpicturing of the belief that it's possible to create an identity which God didn't create. The ego is this identity problem and it was Answered or forgiven by the Holy Spirit the instant it seemed to arise. That one problem could possibly be described being an authority problem or perhaps a confusion in who's the writer of Reality. The mind that believes in the fact of the time-space cosmos has a control issue, for it believes so it can make itself. This ego mind also thinks it's in competition with God, although that is pushed out of conscious awareness. This unconscious ego thought system is exposed in the A Course in Miracles Workbook lessons, and Lesson 13 contains a great example of this unveiling:



"A meaningless world engenders fear because I believe I am in competition with God."



This is the start of training your brain to forgive, for the focus is brought back to your brain, back to thinking, and taken away from the body and the world. Anorexia, weight issues, body image issues, and interpersonal relationship issues are samples of projection, of seeing the situation where it's not: in the world. The mind cannot tolerate the belief in a war with God, and this belief is pushed out of awareness. The deep-seated control issue such a belief entails is then projected to the body and the world. Weight control, like any attempt to control the script or the body, is an endeavor to control the past. The Holy Spirit teaches that yesteryear can only just be forgiven or released or viewed as false—not fixed or controlled or changed.



The same ego dynamic is underneath interpersonal relationship struggles of power and control, of wanting to correct or change an individual or perhaps a self-image. Personal relationships may seem to sail happily along for awhile, the make-believe self-concept IS the non-public perspective and thus is obviously on shaky ground. Decisions are continuous. The Holy Spirit is just a decision. The ego is just a decision. Atonement is your decision that ends all decisions, an acceptance of the changelessness of Mind. The ego is your decision to trust that your brain may be separate from God. Once your brain believed so it had separated and built this time-space world, this time-space world of bodies became its substitute identity, as it believed it'd thrown away the Kingdom of Heaven. The planet was made up as an alternative identity. The sleeping mind is split on your decision of identity. The Holy Spirit says, "This world isn't Identity. This world is definitely an illusion." And thus the Holy Spirit reminds your brain constantly, "This world isn't your Home. This world isn't your Identity. This world isn't real." Whilst the mind is split it's hearing another voice (the ego) that's saying: "You've done it. You've separated from God. You'd better make the very best of it and find something of the world to spot with. You can never return back for God will punish you."



Thought-form associations seem to become substitute identity. The ego mind appears to be identified with the body, with family, with environments that seem to surround it (i.e., I'm an American, Japanese, I'm male, I'm female, I'm from a wealthy family, from an unhealthy family, I'm Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, etc.) All of these are thought-form associations. And these seeming other persons and places surrounding the small personal self are part of this construction. The mind is very shaky about this small identity, this small self, this little me. So the small me is shaky, and it seems like other persons give the small me reality and importance (i.e., you're my son, my daughter, you're my boss, you're a loving father, etc.) and all different things that these images appear to be telling this little me appear to be really important. Praise thus seems essential (i.e., you are an individual and you're a good one!).



Praise and acceptance from others SEEM to stabilize this very shaky thing (i.e., you're a great lover, you're a great provider, you're great with the children, you have an excellent intellect, you have such a heart, you help serve so many other folks, you're a great team-player, on and on). This facet of the self-concept says that you're an individual and you have many of these positive attributes that basically allow you to a valuable and worthy person, that make you stick out above the crowd. You're not just anyone—you're somebody special. The flip side is criticism, which directly reflects the shaky sense of self. Criticism could be: you're never as great as you believe you are, you're not such a good team player, such a good provider, so good in bed—everything which can be taken as insults to the non-public self-concept). That's the flip side of the strokes. To the ego self-concept that believes both parties (the positive and negative) of thinking are real, the Holy Spirit is perceived as a great threat, for the Holy Spirit results in the experience of forgiveness or the realization that none of the tiny images perceived as separate have any reality.



When the criticism seems in the future, the ego attempts a substitution. It thinks, "I don't need this. I'll go elsewhere and start other relationships with people who can appreciate my talents and skills and abilities, appreciate my personhood. I'll avoid those negative influences on earth and those negative people. I'll find another individual or join a group where folks are like-minded and overlook the remaining portion of the world. These new people should me and stroke me and praise me." The attempt at substitution is an endeavor to keep up a feeling of specialness, a feeling of separation, a feeling of individuality (a private mind with private thoughts). Those attempts are special love relationships. They seem to strengthen worth and value and to validate personhood. And they offer a false witness for clinging to the ego as identity. To the ego, past associations serve to provide personhood some sense of stability and consistency and value. Yet, the Holy Spirit demonstrates past associations offer nothing of value, for they certainly were created by the ego to deny the facts of God's Love.

Holy relationship emphasizes and reflects Content (right-minded thinking) and posseses an awareness of the meaninglessness of form. Whilst the ego's believed relationships will appear to be specific, yet every one will present an opportunity to release the belief in specifics. Divine Mind is Abstract and Universal. Forgiveness may be the bridge to the remembrance of Christ and God, Divine Abstraction. Thus the Holy Spirit teaches in A Course in Miracles:

"When you meet anyone, remember it is just a holy encounter. As you see him you might find yourself. As you treat him you'll treat yourself. As you consider him you'll consider yourself. Remember this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they're given another chance at salvation. Don't leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I am always there with you, in remembrance of you.