Jerking off. Spanking it. Whacking off. Choking the chicken. There are a lot of phrases out there to describe masturbating with a penis. But when it comes to masturbating with a vulva and vagina? Not so much. The only term that’s regularly used is masturbation, which is inherently clinical. When you compare that to the florid, engorged, erect language used to describe people with penises masturbating, it becomes very clear that society thinks and feels differently about male and female masturbation. And that's implicit in the way people talk about it.